What book could you read over and over again?
If there’s one book I could read over and over again, it’s The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer. Every time I go back to it, it hits differently—because I’m at a different stage in life, mentally and emotionally.
Quick summary: the book breaks down how we’re not our thoughts, not our emotions, not even our identities. We’re the awareness behind all of that. It teaches you how to separate from the constant noise in your mind, and just observe it instead of getting dragged into it. And when you start living from that place of awareness, you find peace, freedom, and clarity—without needing to fix or control everything.
It’s one of those books that pulls you back into the present moment, especially when life feels loud or off balance. It’s like a reset for your mental and emotional state. Simple language, deep impact.
So let’s take a few key moments from The Untethered Soul and drop them into your world—because I already get the sense you’re someone who’s self-aware, but sometimes that overthinking loop still creeps in, especially when you’re trying to do right by others, show up fully, or make the “right” move in life, right?
1. The Voice in Your Head Is Not You
Singer talks about how there’s this constant inner monologue that comments on everything—your choices, your image, your relationships, your work. That voice says, “You should’ve said this,” “Why didn’t you do that,” or “What if they think…?”
But the key is this: you’re not the voice. You’re the one who hears the voice.
In your life: When you’re reflecting on a conversation or an opportunity and your mind starts spiraling into “what ifs,” this is your moment to step back. Literally say to yourself, “That’s just the voice talking—I don’t have to follow it.”
This doesn’t mean ignore it. It means observe it, like watching clouds pass. It’s just mental weather, not reality.
2. Letting Go Instead of Holding On
One of the book’s biggest lessons is that inner peace doesn’t come from controlling life, it comes from releasing the tight grip we have on trying to make everything feel safe or certain.
In your life: You’ve got a vision. You’re clearly about growth, alignment, and probably carrying a lot of responsibility (for yourself and others). But sometimes that creates internal pressure—to overanalyze, to get it “perfect,” to keep every plate spinning.
Singer would say: “What if you just let the moment be what it is?”
Try saying to yourself, “I don’t have to fix this right now. I can just feel it and let it pass.” You don’t lose control—you actually reclaim your energy.
3. Energy Stuck = Overthinking
Singer explains how when we don’t let go of experiences, the energy from those moments gets trapped in us. That trapped energy creates mental loops. So a lot of overthinking isn’t even about the present, it’s unresolved energy from the past.
In your life: Maybe you’ve had moments where someone didn’t see your value, or you felt misunderstood, or you’ve been hurt by someone you gave a lot to. And now, in the quiet moments, those thoughts resurface. Not because you haven’t “moved on”—but because your energy is still holding on.
Singer suggests: breathe through it, feel it fully, and let it go. Don’t analyze it—release it. That’s how you stop the mental spin.
Bottom line:
You’re not broken for overthinking. Your mind’s just trying to protect you. But The Untethered Soul teaches you how to sit in the seat of your awareness—and once you’re in that seat, thoughts lose their grip.
That’s when your creativity flows. Your energy comes back. You respond to life instead of reacting to it.
And trust me, the version of you that’s centered in awareness? That’s where your next level starts.
here’s a practice straight out of The Untethered Soul that you can drop into your day right now, especially when the overthinking starts creeping in:
The “Relax and Release” Technique
This is Singer’s go-to method. Simple—but deep.
Step 1: Notice the Trigger
When you feel that mental spin start—overanalyzing a text, second-guessing a decision, or replaying a conversation—pause and notice it.
Say to yourself:
“There’s that voice again. It’s trying to protect me, but I don’t need to follow it.”
This is awareness kicking in. You’re now watching the mind instead of being the mind.
Step 2: Relax Your Body
This is the part most people skip. Your mind tenses up because your body does.
Drop your shoulders. Loosen your jaw. Take a slow, deep breath. Feel your chest expand and your belly soften.
Literally say in your mind:
“Relax. Let it go.”
Step 3: Let the Energy Pass
Singer says every emotional trigger is just energy trying to move. Don’t push it down. Don’t cling to it. Just feel it and breathe.
Visualize it like a wave passing through you. No judgment. No fixing. Just movement.
You’ll notice—within 30 seconds to 2 minutes—your mental storm starts to pass. You return to your center.
Real Talk: Why This Works for You
Because you’re already self-aware. You already want to grow.
But sometimes your mind hijacks that growth and turns it into pressure. This technique brings you back to presence—where your power is.
This is what we teach inside BNXTLVL Health. The body isn’t just physical—it’s emotional, mental, and energetic. And when we stop fighting our thoughts and start witnessing them, that’s when healing begins.
If you commit to just one minute of “relax and release” each time your mind spirals—you’ll start to feel the shift.
Talk Soon,
Dr. John D.C.